For Pisces, the world is bound up with inspiration and service. Their life takes on meaning when they recognize a guiding direction. They may divide reality into good and bad people and strive to belong to the first group. Without a motivation that inspires them, they may feel sad, lose their way or be left at the mercy of circumstances.
Their sensitivity lets them be moved by other people’s pain and recognize the needs of those around them. They like to help and collaborate. A mission, whether emotional, spiritual or material, can gather their strength and give them a clear direction.
Personal history also counts. If in childhood they learned that presenting themselves as a victim got them support, they may keep that resource in adult life. In that case, their stories may seek a sympathy that protects them from those they hold responsible for their distress.
This possibility should be observed in the person’s actual behavior, without turning it into an automatic label.
In their relationships they usually come across as spontaneous, likable and not very cautious. That openness wins them the affection of others, but it can also expose them to manipulation. Their willingness to give up their own benefits in order to help can lead them to carry more than their share.
In group work they identify needs and try to meet them. In their personal life they value rest and sleep. In intimacy they need a sensual, affectionate dimension to accompany the encounter.
How to win their heart
Allow yourself to receive their care and to acknowledge what they offer. Feeling useful can be an important way for them to express love. Do not be quick to mistake their kindness for weakness, or to put them down for it.
Respect their spiritual beliefs and try to learn what they mean in their life. Trying to force them to give those beliefs up can open a distance that is hard to close. Helping them find and realize a dream is another way of drawing closer to their world.
What pleases them
- Ordering their experience through clear ideas about good and evil.
- Feeling useful by helping and serving others.
- Building bonds through care and collaboration.
- Having spiritual beliefs that give meaning to their life.
What they dislike
- Being required to explain every experience through logic alone.
- Their concern for others going unnoticed.
- Having to take radical positions.
- Being asked for things rudely, or feeling that their willingness to serve is being abused.
- Disparagement of their beliefs, or attempts to impose on them in matters of belief.
Strengths
- A capacity for helping and giving of themselves without demanding anything in return right away.
- The strength to achieve what they set out to do when they have a clear direction.
- Sensitivity in detecting needs and shortcomings.
- A willingness to serve humanitarian ideals.
- A capacity for effort and sacrifice for their values and ideals.
- Skill at gathering their strength and resources around a mission.
- Consistency between what they think, say and do when they find inspiration.
- A motivation that does not depend solely on flattery or material rewards.
Weaknesses
- An ease in letting themselves be manipulated.
- Reluctance to look critically at the behavior of people with whom they once felt good.
- The risk of betraying their own judgment to follow someone they trust deeply.
- Inertia and inactivity when they lose their goal.
- A tendency to seek influence over others from a victim’s position.
- The possibility of clinging fanatically to a belief.
- Vulnerability to people who use their devotion for their own benefit.
- Resentment whose causes they do not express clearly.
- Compassion that leads them to take on other people’s tasks.
- Difficulty recognizing dependent behavior or aggressive responses when distress appears.
- Destructive reactions if they build up resentment.
- Using tears or tantrums as a form of pressure in a conflict.