For Scorpio, the world can seem like a roller coaster: either there is a passion that sets everything in motion, or a feeling of emptiness appears that leads them to live on autopilot. When they get excited about a project, the impossible becomes a challenge and the moment to act always seems to be now.
The key word is passion. They need to put their heart into what they do, think and say. From outside, that devotion can look sometimes like extremism and sometimes like instability. While something interests them, they commit all their energy to it; when they lose interest, they may want to walk away at once.
They are territorial and can seem enigmatic. They are able to seek out information but are not always willing to reveal their own. If they do not want to talk about something, pressure usually makes them close up even more.
When they lose interest or feel confused by a situation beyond their control, they may fall into a state of isolation and shutdown. At those times, affection and time open them up more than force does.
If you see them listless and unmotivated, helping them recognize what might interest them again can be a way of drawing closer.
Their direct, sometimes blunt way of saying things can create difficulties, especially with people of a sensitive temperament. The intensity with which they live does not always match the pace the person beside them needs.
How to win their heart
Understand their taste for challenges and conquest. They may talk passionately about one subject and, shortly after, pour the same enthusiasm into something new. Before judging that change, notice what has stopped interesting them and what draws them now.
In their emotional life they usually need the bond to keep its movement and desire. Taking their partner as already won may dampen part of that drive. The invitation is to keep the encounter alive, without anyone having to give up their autonomy to hold the other person’s interest.
What pleases them
- Having a great passion in hand and acting with intensity.
- Feeling closeness and acceptance, together with the desire to keep on winning their partner over. A contradiction may appear: wanting their partner’s complete devotion and losing motivation once they feel it is assured.
- Living romance intensely.
What they dislike
- Waiting to get something they want.
- Being without a partner and without the prospect of a meeting soon.
- Having to wrap their words in diplomacy.
- Not being able to express their likes and dislikes openly.
- A partner who is controlling, or who gives up their own position entirely.
- Feeling interrogated about their affairs.
Strengths
- A powerful will.
- Dedication in facing hardships and deprivation while pursuing what they want.
- Endurance when something excites them.
- Persistence toward the goal as long as the passion lasts.
- Confidence in their ability to accomplish what they set out to do.
- Skill at developing strategies on the fly.
Weaknesses
- Impatience they find hard to hide.
- An ease in letting go of what stops interesting them and leaving matters unfinished.
- Resistance to listening to advice.
- An intensity that can lead them to press ahead without giving enough consideration to those they meet along the way.
- A tendency to disconnect from what is happening and lose track of time when they feel under too much pressure.
- Difficulty finding middle ground.
- Abandoning necessary tasks once they become routine, without always weighing the effect on others.
- Focusing on a single matter without noticing how much space it takes up in their life and in their conversations.