For Virgo, the world resembles a granary that must be enlarged and cared for, for the family and for those they consider part of it. Usefulness, cleanliness, order and attention to detail have a special value. Their eye spots what is missing, and they usually say so openly.
Expressing their feelings may require conscious learning. In some cases they even criticize emotional expressions that are too open. Meanwhile, they observe and analyze what serves them and what does not. That constant evaluation can make others see them as overly critical.
They know how to identify where there is profit and security. Their sense of usefulness lets them recognize opportunities and negotiate. At the same time, they can demand a lot of themselves and attend to every detail of what they do, to the point of judging themselves so harshly that it ends up getting in the way of action.
Although they may fear taking risks, when it comes to meeting survival needs they usually move forward and put their fears below the search for a solution. They also pay attention to health and diet, matters that can become a source of worry. They accept outside direction when they see concrete benefits in it.
How to win their heart
Give room to their way of expressing affection. Their reserve does not necessarily mean a lack of feeling, and their practical way of loving may be more visible in deeds than in declarations.
Pointing out what is missing may have become a habit. If their remarks hurt you, talk about the effect they have on you without assuming that every criticism is a personal attack. Security is a key word for understanding their emotional world.
What pleases them
- Belonging to a productive system that offers them stability.
- A well-organized household budget.
- Scrupulous cleanliness.
- Order in social life.
What they dislike
- Having a request turned down when they consider it backed by clear reasons.
- Interruptions when they are concentrating.
- Not receiving attention when they need it.
- Being required to express their feelings in a particular way.
Strengths
- A capacity for telling, in everyday life, what is useful from what is not.
- Skill at negotiating and firmly defending the interests they represent.
- Emotional strength to hold steady in the face of difficulties.
- Practical sense in approaching problems, finding solutions and discovering advantages no one had considered.
- A capacity for self-criticism.
- A pursuit of quality and excellence.
Weaknesses
- Self-criticism that, taken to the extreme, can paralyze them.
- Intense nervousness.
- Fear of future scarcity, even when the present is abundant.
- Difficulty expressing affection, which may also be related to what they learned in their family history.
- Reluctance to part with what they consider valuable.
- Rejection of effort or sacrifice when they feel it brings them no security or well-being.
- Feeling overwhelmed in situations where they cannot improve their security and comfort.